So after many comments about my blog on ‘The Things Nobody Tells You About Pregnancy’ alot of people said that it was the same about after giving birth! Like after having a baby everything was all bright shiney rainbows and happy! WRONG!!!
Here are a few things nobody told me about what happens after you give birth.
Bleeding – Once you have given birth be that a natural birth or via C Section you WILL bleed! Kind of like a period but heavier for around 10-14 days (sometimes longer). So stock up on those maternity pads ladies and put plenty in your hospital bag too!
After Pains – Now don’t think that just because baby is out that’s it the pains have stopped. You still have to put up with the after pains! Basically its just the pains of your uterus contracting and shrinking back down now it doesn’t have a tiny human inhabiting it. I found them pretty manageable with some pain killers and they feels alot like period cramps. They only lasted a few days for me after birth but i believe they can last for up to a week?
Engorged Boobs – So i breastfed Grayson for 4 weeks, i was loving the fact i was able to do this as i know many arent! The first few days were fine, it seemed like a total doddle but it was because my milk hadn’t came through yet, that takes a few days after birth. So after about a week i remember feeling my boobs and they were like ROCKS! I kid you not i thought i had implants in there they were so hard! Feeding always helped take away the engorged feeling, but once i stopped breast feeding oh my days the pain was unreal! i remember just going up to bed to lie down with no top on and with a towel under me and just letting my boobs leak out! The best way i found to help with the engorge pain was to use a cold pack and cabbage leaves! Ill warn you it doesn’t smell pretty!! But it works! #CabbagePatchKid
Night Sweats – These are pretty common to happen after giving birth, not something i actually realised until i woke up one night thinking id either ran a marathon or jumped in a bath cause i was sweating like a pig!! Ont he plus side…i was putting new bed sheets on every day, so i always had that nice clean happy fresh bed smell!
Baby Blues – This is probably something you have heard of, so when you start to feel a bit down and weepy maybe about the first week or so after having baby. I can honestly say i dont think i got this stage because Grayson was in Hospital from 5 days old i think my upset was more about him being hooked up to monitors than actually having the blues…Or i could of had the blues and not know about it?
The DREADED post partum Shit!! – Yeah basically this is up there with the worst feeling ever!! I was literally in tears on my toilet because of it! Nobody warns you about shitting after child birth!! But one bit of advise i did get that i will pass on is when you need to go, lean forward and put your hands on the floor (if you can) honestly….saved my life when i had to go second time round!
You most likely wont use half the stuff you got! – You know that really super dooper fancy baby swing you got that cost like £200 and spins in circles and magically puts your baby to sleep by sending it to Mars and back again….yeah your baby will most likely hate it or you wont use it!? Honestly all a baby needs in the beginning is food (breast milk or formula), clothes and somewhere comfy to sleep! Oh and of course your love! But honestly that is it! We had so many outfits, toys, chairs, rockers ect that were gifted to us and honestly Grayson was in baby grows for the first 6 weeks pretty much cause nothing fitted him, he liked to nap on his play matt (which we got for £20 rather than £60) so got our moneys worth! I literally took an Ikea bag full of clothes down to the charity shop that were unworn because he looked and felt comfier in onesies! The toys, books, teethers, cute outfits ect will all come later…enjoy the tiny small baby phase when all they need is your love and cuddles!
Your Social Group WILL Change! – If you dont have alot of friends who have kids at the moment, they you will most likey add some to your friend group! Connecting with other mums is fab! You are both going through the same thing at the same time because your babies will be of a similar age! But also dont be shocked if friendships you had before you had your baby seem a little off! You have a new life you are responsible for! You wont be able to go out all weekend or just nip over for a coffee at 6pm cause thats baby’s bed time or you are simply just so tired because you have been up all night! We sadly lost a few close friends, funnily enough they actually have kids of their own so know the drill…but still they have faded off in to the distance, they way i see it, its their loss! Enjoy your new mummy friends, i know i am!
These are just a few things that i experienced on my post partum recovery! if there is any others you can think of or any that happened to you let me know! I love hearing your stories!